The Myth of the Mom Who Can Do Everything

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 001.
I am most often asked,  “How do you do it all?” Actually, that’s not the question, I’m most often asked, but you’ll have to listen to find out what that one is.

PJ & Indigo podcast together

During this episode, I discuss some of the things that I do, and some of the things that I don’t do.  (I told you it was a myth – not even I can do it all!)

You’ll even get to hear from Indigo as she joins me and helps me pick the winner of the Goat Milk Stuff gift certificate.  I’m hope this episode is encouraging to those moms who feel like they can’t get it all done. After recording the episode, I put together my own lists of some activities that are Important and some activities that are NOT Important.

I’d love to hear some of the things that you’re ok with not doing, so please share them!

Thanks for listening! Please join me next week when I discuss the importance of sleep for busy moms.


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  • Emily

    Great podcast! Indigo was so cute 🙂

    • Thanks, Emily! She had a lot of fun! PJ

  • juliet

    Great advice! Keep the helpful information coming 🙂

    • Thanks, Juliet – that’s the plan! PJ

  • Cristy

    Great job! I like hearing what things you don’t get to. It helps to know that there is someone else who doesn’t get their kitchen floor mopped all the time!

    • I’m glad it helped, Cristy! I have a feeling there are quite a few of us that don’t get our floors mopped all the time. 😉 PJ

  • Sadie

    Great firsts show! I am OK with not curling/straightening/blow drying my hair. My style is simple and doesn’t take that much time.

    • Sadie – the first time I pulled out a curling iron, my children were all shocked and gathered around me to see what the heck it was. I said, “THIS is the curling iron I got when I was in high school.” LOL PJ

  • Nicole

    I enjoyed listening! Looking forward to future episodes! As I prepare to become a first time mom in a couple weeks, this was helpful to hear! Thanks! 🙂

    • Congratulations, Nicole!! That’s so exciting! I said a prayer for you for an “easy”, quick, and healthy delivery! PJ

  • amanda carnes

    Great job! I was just telling my husband why cant i get everything done? Nice to know that not every mom does and its ok! Indigo was so cute!

    • Hi Amanda – I sure don’t, and it always surprises me that people think that I do! Indigo had so much fun, she can’t wait to do it again.


  • Jennifer

    Great advice! I enjoyed listening.

    • Thanks, Jennifer! I’m glad. 🙂 PJ

  • Loved listening to your podcast. I am a first time mom of a 3 month old and I run a business out of my house also. I can’t wait to listen to your next podcast.

    • Hi Devin! Congratulations on the baby! It’s an exhausting and exhilarating time! What kind of business do you have?

  • Jonie M.

    Great Podcast, PJ! 🙂 You & Indigo were wonderful! While I have been given many blessings in my life, one thing that my husband & I haven’t received (after 9 yrs of marriage) has been children. We trust that God has a reason and a purpose for all things. I liked the fact that even though your podcast is so helpful to busy moms, your information is still so relevant to a homemaker like myself! Your message inspires me to be faithful where I am in life and to try and live out my individual purpose. Your ‘rule for the week’ is very thought provoking and a wonderful idea! It’s amazing how even though some of us have more time to accomplish things than others, we can still get in a rut if we do the same things over and never access what we’re doing each day and why. So I appreciate you helping bring that to my attention today, as that’s important! Just want to say that if I had been a mom, you would’ve been a great role model to follow…..your kids are adorable! I couldn’t help but notice the first thing Indigo liked about what you “DO” do is tucking her in! 🙂 The time you spent with her and doing for her is what stuck out in her little mind! Thanks so much for your inspiring words of wisdom today, PJ. I loved everything about the podcast. (And BTW, even though I have the time, mopping the floor is still not one of my top priorities either! lol )

    • Hi Jonie,

      I’m so thankful for your example of still trusting God despite the fact that He hasn’t granted you something you obviously desire. I have to imagine that there are women watching you that are amazed at your strength.

      I was really happy that Indigo said that first as well. Sometimes I wonder if my time with the business is all that they will remember and I’m so glad that it isn’t!

      And I’m so glad to hear that I’m not alone with mopping floors! I feel SO much better!

  • Lisa

    Enjoyed listening to your podcast. I loved the fact that the first thing Indigo said that was important that you do, is tuck her in at night! That just reinforces that the time we invest in our children builds a wonderful foundation for them that will last all their lives.

    • Thanks, Lisa!

      That was actually really great for me to hear and a super reminder. We’ve been spending more time than I would like on the business lately, and it was really good for me to hear how much the simple act of tucking Indigo in sticks out in her mind and means a lot to her.

  • Carina Casillas

    I absoulutely loved this podcast. Indigo was rea.
    Amazing job PJ! Looking forward to next weed podcast on sleep. I haven’t been getting much of that latey.

    • Hi Carina,

      Thanks! Indigo is reading the comments over my shoulder and she said, “Carina??? Like our Carina?”

      I said, “Yep – that’s her namesake”. She just ran off to tell Hewitt and Jade. LOL

      I’m glad you enjoyed the podcast and I hope the sleep one helps!!

  • GREAT podcast!! Keep up the good work!

    • Hi Chris,

      It’s good to hear from you. Thanks for the encouragement! 🙂


  • Carley

    Great reminders 🙂 & I love Indigo’s voice – so cute!

    • Thanks, Carley!

      Indigo has been so excited to podcast with me. Although now Hewitt is jealous and want to also!

  • Denise Donaldson

    Indigo was so ADORABLE! I loved the podcast!

    • Hi Denise,

      Indigo said, “Thank you, Denise.” We’re both glad that you enjoyed it! 🙂

  • Vicki Dill

    Great podcast! I wondered how you do it all!

    • Hi Vicki,

      Thanks! It’s definitely a myth that I do it all. LOL I’m glad to get that myth dispelled!

  • Haleigh Adams

    Hey P.J. and Indigo,
    I was so glad to see you were going to talk about this today, last night I was just talking about this with Bradley last night. I am horrible at prioritizing! Thanks for your tips! Glad you all were safe from the tornados.

    • Hi Haleigh,

      It’s good to hear from you! We’re glad we’re safe and glad to hear your parents are too! I’ve actually found that for me, it’s not just enough to make a list of the things that I want to do, but it’s almost more important to make a list of the things that I do that are just not important in the long term. It helps me to stop wasting the time on those things once I’ve got a list of them made! I guess because it helps me recognize that those are time wasters that aren’t going to matter in the least 5 years from now!

      One thing I didn’t mention, is that it’s also helpful to have your husband read the lists and see if anything is different for him. Because if something on your not important list is important to him, that’s something you need to know!


  • Gemma

    Great job! I needed to hear every word, and I believe that all mom’s can relate with what you spoke about. We sometimes know what we need to do, but it helps to have a reminder to get us back on track. I was also thinking while listening, “how does she have time to add podcasts to her list?”. Thank you for taking the time to encourage others through what you have learned. Keep up the good work PJ!

    • Hi Gemma,

      Thank you! I hope that what I say can speak to a lot of people because while we moms are a diverse group, we are alike in a LOT of ways.

      As for podcasting – well, it’s something that I’ve wanted to do for a long time. I also get lots and lots of emails that I answer individually. I’ve always felt that wasn’t the best use of my time because I only reach one mom at a time. It’s my hope that people will start listening to the podcast or I can point them to the podcast and reach more moms with the time I spend communicating with them.

      Plus, I enjoy it (or I do so far), so it’s something I look forward to. And by spending time with Indigo (or a different child) during them, it’s a special one on one time that builds a memory.

      And, well… ask Jim, I’ve always got to be trying/learning something new. Always. It’s a curse/blessing. LOL
      Although – that’s how I got goats in the first place, and made soap in the first place. So… you just never know where it will lead!


  • Joni Sunshine Phares

    Your such an inspiration to me! I loved it!

    • Thank you, Joni! What a kind and wonderful thing to say!!

  • Amanda T

    Love your soap! Indigo dear you are adorable and very clever.

    • Thanks, Amanda! Indigo had so much fun doing it. I think she and Hewitt are going to fight over who gets to join me on the next podcast. 🙂 PJ

  • Karen

    That was great! I will definitely keep listening, it was like getting a big boost of encouragement!

    • Thanks, Karen! That’s a encouraging to me because that was my hope!!

  • Good work PJ. Turned out great!!!!

    • Thanks, Wes! I appreciate that. Thanks for your help!!

  • Sara

    Thanks so much for sharing. I love how you encourage and push your children instead of being everything for them.

    • Thanks, Sara

      I appreciate you taking the time to tell me that. I actually get criticized sometimes for doing that very thing, but I think it’s so important to challenge your kids and help them to grow!


  • Deborah

    Even though I am not a Mom, most of us are still busy. Liked the reminder about the important priorities to make time for and the things to either give to someone else to do or just not do them. I love the GMS products. Thanks so much for all you do.

    • Hi Deborah,

      You’re absolutely right – in this day and age, most of us have more to do than we can get to! I’m glad you’re enjoying our soaps and stuff. I feel very privileged to get to do what I do every day! 🙂


  • Melissa

    That was great! You are a wonderful role model for all moms. I am looking forward to the next podcast.

    • Thanks, Melissa!! You just made my day. 🙂


  • Janet Duff

    Thanks for putting things into perspective and reminding us to prioritize the things in our lives. I really hope that you aren’t having children. You can’t have too many of them. God bless you all!

    • Hi Janet – I’m guessing you meant “done having children” LOL Children are a huge blessing and I am so thankful for the ones that I have, and leave any more up to Him!

      • Janet Duff

        Yes, I need to practice my proof reading. Leaving out “done” was not intentional.

        • It was pretty funny though. 🙂


  • brittany c

    please keep these coming… would love to hear more. I believe that you encouragement will help many!

    • Thanks, Brittany. I’m planning to do one every week. That’s my goal. 🙂


  • hope

    This is a great podcast. Thank you for the info and you’re a great mom!

    • Thanks for those kind words, Hope! What a wonderful thing to say. 🙂

  • anne conover

    You did a real good job on the first one – highly informative and I look forward to the next one! Keep up the good work!

    • Thanks, Anne! I’m hoping they get better as I get more comfortable with the equipment. 🙂

  • Ammie Barbee

    It is so good to hear that others that look like they have it all together, don’t do it all. I only have two children and get frustrated since I try to do it all plus help my parents out and get down on myself when something gets left undone. Sometimes I just need to hear someone else say that’s okay. My husband tells me that all the time.

    I enjoyed listening and Indigo sounded adorable. My 7 year old would be too embarrassed but my 5 year old would love something like that.

    • Ammie – Mom to Mom – it’s ok that it doesn’t all get done. Please don’t get down on yourself and hold yourself to expectations that are too high. I often tell myself to set high goals and low expectations. That’s kind of the way I operate. I always push myself and go for doing everything. And then when it doesn’t happen, I’m ok with that too. 🙂


  • Deb Martin

    Greetings PJ,

    Enjoyed your podcast very much; very professional!

    Even though the only children I have are four-legged and the only ‘workers’ around the house are my husband and myself – I too have come to the realization that not everything can get done! But my husband, the dogs and cats all get plenty of quality time from this ‘mom’. Besides, I like to think that dust protects the finish on the furniture 🙂 !

    • Deb – I LOVE that about the dust. That’s awesome. LOL


  • Andrea Keen

    Love this and I try to live this way too. My house is cluttered but clean and I spend time with my kids over cleaning. I do need to work on giving my husband more attention. Luckily he is an understanding guy. This is a great affirmation for my because there are individuals in my life who look down on some of my choices. Unfortunately they are family so I need to overlook/ overcome the criticism. Hearing stories like this help.

  • Monica

    Wow, I think I just decided to never send a thank you note again! Well…expect to my in-laws….but other than that…..

    • Feel free to blame me if anyone complains. LOL PJ