10 Thoughts Busy Moms Need To Know

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 077.
I’m sad to announce that this is the last episode of the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide for the forseeable future. I’ve been thinking and praying about this decision for a while and with Jim’s help, I’ve decided that I need to stop podcasting for now.  It’s my hope that by stopping the podcast, I can free up some time to catch up on some projects (for myself, for the family, and for Goat Milk Stuff) that have been needing my attention for quite a while now.

family portrait_level balance_12_blog

During this episode, I share ten recurring themes that I found myself repeating during many of my podcast episodes.  They are not in any particular order, they are just some thoughts that I think all busy moms (including me) need to be reminded of periodically.

10 Thoughts

  1. Say No – to outsiders, to yourself, and to your children.
  2. Don’t be afraid – don’t live in fear of the unknown or of bad things happening.
  3. Don’t judge other moms or feel the need to compete with other moms.
  4. Enjoy your kids.
  5. Stay in the moment.
  6. Don’t expect perfection – from your kids, from your spouse if you have one, and especially not from yourself.
  7. Take care of yourself and don’t feel guilty for doing it.
  8. Live below your means and make sure you have enough margin.
  9. Train your children – it takes more time, but it’s worth the investment.
  10. Create systems for your life.

And most of all, remember to dream big!

I just want to say thank you to everyone who has ever listened to this podcast and reached out to me.  It is a huge encouragement to me when something I share in this podcast makes a difference in someone’s life.  And remember, although I am not currently podcasting, you can still reach out to me!

PJ

 

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

The Importance of Friends II

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 076.
Last week we discussed the important role friends play in our lives. Today I’m going to continue my discussion on the importance of friendships with Carlin Flora, author of the book Friendfluence*.

PJ with MaryBeth_blog

Last week we talked about how important friendships are for our children and teens.  Today Carlin and I discuss the role of friendships for busy moms and dads.  We also discuss how friendships can impact your health and the role that online friendships can play in our lives.

Episodes Resources

Episodes In This Series

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next weeks episode.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

The Importance of Friends I

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 075.
During today’s episode, I’m going to talk about the importance of friendships with Carlin Flora, author of the book Friendfluence*.

the importance of friends_blog

I read an article a few weeks ago that surprised me.  It said that research has shown that if you don’t have enough friends, your risk of dying is the same as if you smoked 15 cigarettes a day.

I wanted to understand better the roles that friendships play in our lives, so I read the book Friendfluence by Carlin Flora*.  She was kind enough to join me for this podcast episode so we could discuss what the research and leading psychologists say about the Importance of Friendships.

Episodes Resources

Episodes In This Series

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next weeks episode as I finish the discussion with Carlin Flora about The Importance of Friends.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

Scream Free Parenting II

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 074.

How often have you found yourself embarrassed by your children’s behavior?  I know for me, with 8 children, there have been many times that I have wanted to hang my head in shame over something my children have done.  But I know that good parenting means that instead of yelling at my kids for embarrassing me, I need to train them on what the appropriate behavior is.

scream free parenting 2_blog

I talked about this and other issues with Hal Runkel, author of the book Scream Free Parenting* during today’s podcast episode.

Episodes Resources

Episodes In This Series

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next weeks episode as I talk about The Importance of Friends.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

Scream Free Parenting I

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 073.

I have always said that God gives us children not JUST so that we can raise them, but so that we can finish growing up ourselves.  Have you ever found yourself saying, “My children make me want to scream!?”  I admit, I’ve said that.  And while our children may instigate that feeling in us, they aren’t the ones that make us scream.  We do that all on our own.  The truth is, becoming a scream-free parent actually has very little to do with our children’s behavior, and everything to do with our own.

scream free parenting_blog

Because this is such a huge issue for so many parents, I’m very excited to talk with Hal Runkel today, author of Scream Free Parenting*. I hope that it encourages you that you can gain control over the way you react to your children.

Episodes Resources

Episodes In This Series

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next weeks episode as I continue the discussion with Hal about Scream Free Parenting.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

How To Overcome Sibling Rivalry II

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 072.

During today’s episode, I’m going to finish the discussion about sibling rivalry with Dr. Todd Cartmell, author of the book, Keep the Siblings, Lose the Rivalry*.

sibling rivalry 2_blog

A lot of parents are tempted to think that siblings fighting is normal and that there is nothing they can do about it.  While sibling rivalry may be common, and your children may bicker and squabble, it is something you can definitely do something about.

In his book, Keep the Siblings, Lose the Rivalry*, Dr. Todd Cartmell gives 10 specific steps that you can follow that will help you to improve the sibling rivalry in your home.

The Ten Steps

  1. Create a strong family bond
  2. Connect with each child
  3. Eliminate comparing, labeling, and competition
  4. Require sibling respect
  5. Improve sibling communication
  6. Step toward solutions
  7. Teach sibling survival skills
  8. Reinforce positive sibling behavior
  9. Use sibling consequences that work
  10. Put them on the same team

Episodes In This Series

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next weeks episode as I talk about Scream Free Parenting.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

How To Overcome Sibling Rivalry I

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 071.
Sibling rivalry is something I think every parent with more than one child deals with. And it can be so frustrating because of how frequently it appears and how much time we spend dealing with it.

sibling rivalry 1_blog

But as frustrating as it can be, I know that for me it can also become depressing because as a parent, I truly want my children to be friends as well as siblings.  So it is something that I work very hard to ensure doesn’t get out of control.

During today’s episode, I’m going to talk about sibling rivalry with Dr. Todd Cartmell, author of the book, Keep the Siblings, Lose the Rivalry*.

His book is very straightforward with ten steps to improve the relationship between your children.  If the sibling rivalry in your family is out of control, I would definitely recommend his book, but only if you’re willing to put in the work that is needed to correct the rivalry.  There are no magical words that will fix this issue, but be encouraged that time and effort can definitely make a real improvement.

The Ten Steps

  1. Create a strong family bond
  2. Connect with each child
  3. Eliminate comparing, labeling, and competition
  4. Require sibling respect
  5. Improve sibling communication
  6. Step toward solutions
  7. Teach sibling survival skills
  8. Reinforce positive sibling behavior
  9. Use sibling consequences that work
  10. Put them on the same team

Episodes In This Series

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next week’s episode when we finish the discussion on sibling rivalry.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

Parenting Styles

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 070.
I’ve spent several months now talking about the importance of studying your children and getting to know their individual strengths and weaknesses as well as their learning styles and love languages.  During this podcast episode, I encourage you to study yourself as I talk about parenting styles.

DSC_8463_blog

Parenting styles are the “emotional climate” which characterizes your home and the manner in which you raise your children.  This differs from parenting practices, which are the specific steps you take to parent your child.

The Four Parenting Styles

  • Authoritarian
  • Authoritative
  • Permissive
  • Uninvolved

Episodes Resources

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next weeks episode when I discus  how to overcome sibling rivalry with Dr. Todd Cartmell, author of the book Keep the Siblings, Lose the Rivalry*.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

Tools For Staying Fit

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 069.
I talk a lot on my blog and podcast about how valuable it is for busy moms to exercise and stay fit.   But it’s not important so that we can look good (that’s just a side benefit).  It’s important so that we can feel good and so that we can have the energy and stamina we need to thrive in our busy lives as we take care of our family.

tools for staying fit

During this week’s episode, Brett joins me as we talk about some of the tools that we use to stay fit, as well as our current exercise program.

I’ve always worked very hard to teach my daughter during her teenage years that it is important to exercise and stay fit.  But I don’t want her to ever feel that it is all about her outward appearance.  It is important to stay fit so that she is healthy, not so that she can look good in a bikini (if she ever chose to wear one).

I’d love to hear what types of exercises you do to stay fit or if that is one of your current struggles.

Episodes Resources

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next week as I talk about parenting styles.

PJ

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

Parenting with Scripture II

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 068.
During last weeks episode, I was joined by Kara Durbin, author of Parenting With Scripture*. We discussed how we use Bible verses as we train and raise our children, and shared verses that we use.

parenting with scripture2_blog

This week I finish the discussion with Kara about parenting your children with scripture.

Episodes Resources

Episodes In This Series

Thanks for listening! Please join me for next weeks episode as I talk about fitness.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

Parenting with Scripture I

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 067.
“I can barely manage my two children; how do you manage EIGHT?” is a question I hear quite often.  During last week’s podcast episode I talked about how Jim and I intentionally parent our children.  We try to spend more time as proactive parents than we do as reactive parents.

parenting with the bible

During this episode, I am joined by Kara Durbin, author of Parenting With Scripture*. We discuss how we use Bible verses as we train and raise our children.  We share some of our favorite verses and give examples of what that looks like in daily life.  

Episodes Resources

Episodes In This Series

Thanks for listening! Please join me next week as I finish the discussion with Kara about parenting your children with scripture.

PJ

 

*Amazon Affiliate Link

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

 

 

How to Parent Intentionally

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 066.
If you imagine that parenting styles form a spectrum, with reactive parenting on one end and proactive parenting on the other, you can think about where you usually reside.

parent intentionally_blog_1

To intentionally parent means that you spend more time being proactive and learning how to move away from reactive parenting. During this podcast episode, I discuss the differences between proactive and reactive parenting styles. I also share seven principles that Jim and I use in parenting our children.

It’s important to understand your own parenting style. Reactive parents normally wait for their child to act before they react. Proactive parents normally act, and expect their children to react. By it’s very nature, reactive parenting tends to focus more on the negative behaviors of your children and how to discourage them.  Whereas proactive parenting focuses on encouraging the positive behaviors of your children.

Proactive parents aren’t perfect.  And children of proactive parents aren’t perfect.  But you’ll find a lot more joy in your parenting once you are able to become more intentional and focused on the positive behavior you wish to develop in your children, as opposed to being focused on disciplining the negative behavior.

7 Principles of Proactive Parents

  1. Proactive parents want their children’s hearts, not just their outward behavior.
  2. Proactive parents take into account their children’s strengths and weaknesses.
  3. Proactive parents train their children ahead of time how to behave.
  4. Proactive parents set house rules and consequences.
  5. Proactive parents are consistent with consequences.
  6. Proactive parents spend more time encouraging positive behaviors than disciplining negative ones.
  7. Proactive parents ensure they are meeting their children’s needs.

What kind of parent are you?

Thanks for listening!  Join me next week as I talk with Kara Durbin about parenting with scripture.

PJ

 

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

 

 

How To Stop Yelling at Your Children II

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 065.
I don’t know of any mom who wants to yell at her children.  Yet so many moms are struggling with high stress levels.  It often doesn’t take much to “push them over the edge” and they find themselves yelling at their children regularly.  So how do you stop this cycle?

DSC_0179_blog

This is the second part of my interview with the Orange Rhino mom.  Two years ago, she decided she wanted to completely stop yelling at her children.  But unlike most moms, she actually followed through on her desire.  She set herself a challenge to go 365 days without yelling at her children.  And then she started a blog to hold herself accountable.

If yelling is something you struggle with, you’ll find some great encouragement and ideas on how to actually make the change so you can “yell less and love more” during this podcast episode.

Episodes Resources

Episodes In Series

Thanks for listening!  Please join me next week when I talk about parenting your children intentionally.

PJ

 

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

 

 

How To Stop Yelling at Your Children I

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 064.
Do you yell at your children?  Regularly?  Does it bother you that your children don’t listen to what you have to say unless you’re yelling at them?  Is yelling at your kids something you’re secretly ashamed of?

pj and indigo-how to stop yelling at your children_blog

During this podcast episode, I’m joined by the Orange Rhino mom.  Two years ago, she decided she wanted to completely stop yelling at her children.  But unlike most moms, she actually followed through on her desire.  She set herself a challenge to go 365 days without yelling at her children.  And then she started a blog to hold herself accountable.

We had a great conversation about how she actually managed to stop yelling.  If this is something you struggle with, you’ll find some great encouragement and ideas on how to actually make the change so you can “yell less and love more” during this podcast episode.

Episodes Resources

Episodes In Series

Thanks for listening!  Please join me next week for part two of this discussion.

PJ

 

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

 

 

Do Your Children Feel Loved? II

Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast Episode 063.
I don’t doubt that you love your child tremendously.  But if your child isn’t FEELING loved, then the fact that you love them isn’t enough.  Your child needs to FEEL that you love them so they can grow into emotionally healthy adults.

Hewitt

The best way to insure that your child is feeling loved is to express your love to them using all five of the love languages.

The five love languages are – Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.   You can find out more about them in the book The 5 Love Languages of Children* by Gary Chapman.  The book also contains a series of questions that can help you discover your child’s dominant love language.

During the first part of this podcast series, I discussed the first two love languages – Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.  During this episode, I cover the remaining languages – Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

You may be more comfortable with just one of these languages (probably your dominant one). But you neeed to show your family love in all of the love languages, not just your preferred language. By expressing your love with all of the love languages, you will help your children grow into adults who can show love in all of the love languages. That is important for healthy adult relationships.

And if you use all of the languages, while focusing on your child’s dominant love language, you will definitely make your child feel loved.

 Episodes In Series

Thanks for listening!  Please join me next week as I talk about the importance of not yelling at your children and how you can learn not to yell at them.

PJ

 

You can subscribe to the Busy Mom’s Survival Guide Podcast:

iTunes RSS Feed

*Amazon Affiliate Link